Through A Rapist’s Eyes

Posted on March 1, 2008 
Filed Under Empower Yourself, Fighting back, Pepper Spray, Rear Hair Grab Release, Self-Defense Tips, Uncategorized

This is an article from iKickback.com, but it has surfaced on many emails and blog sites, so I’m not sure who the final credit goes to.  It is definitely important information for females of ALL ages.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1.   The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.  They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed.  They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair.  Women with short hair are not common targets.

2.   The second thing men look for is clothing.  They will look for women whose clothing can be quickly and easily removed.  Many said they carried scissors specifically to cut clothing.

3.   They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4.   Men are most likely to attack and rape in the early morning between 5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m.

5.   The number one place women are abducted from or attacked is a grocery store parking lot.  Number two was office parking lots/garages, and number three was public restrooms.

6.   The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

7.   Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.  If the woman puts up any kind of a fight at al, they get discouraged.  It only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be too time-consuming.

8.   These men said they would not pick on women who had umbrellas or other similar objects that could be used from a distance while in their hands.  They said keys were not a deterrent because you have to get very close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. (I still believe you should have your keys out and ready for anything unsuspected).  So the idea is to convince these guys you are not worth it.

Several other defense mechanisms we learned:

9.   If someone is following behind you on the street, in a garage, or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them straight in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk, “I can’t believe it is so cold out here”, “we’re in for a bad winter.”  Now you’ve seen their face and can identify them in a line-up, you lose your appeal as a target.

10.  If someone is coming toward you, hold your hands out in front of you and yell STOP or BACK OFF!  Most of the rapists that were interviewed said they would leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back.  Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

11.  If you carry pepper spray, start yelling, “I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY!”  Holding it where it is visible will be a deterrent.  (The interviewer was a huge advocate of pepper spray and carries it with him wherever he goes).

12.  If someone grabs you, you may not be able to beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them.  If you are grabbed from behind around the waist, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh area  VERY, VERY HARD.  One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches.  Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it…it hurts!

13.  After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN.  I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s groin area it is going to be extremely painful.  You might think you will anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists revealed is that they want a women who will not cause a lot of trouble.  Immediately start causing trouble and he’s out of there!

14.  If the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible using as much pressure pushing down as you can.  The instructor did it to me without using much pressure and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

15.  Of course the things we always hear still apply.  Always be aware of your surroundings, don’t be out late alone - take someone with you, and if you see any odd behavior or have a funny feeling inside, don’t dismiss it – go with your instincts!!

Remember, Stay Aware…Stay Alert…Stay Alive!

 

 

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2 Responses to “Through A Rapist’s Eyes”

  1. Larry Kaminer on October 9th, 2008 12:37 am

    Putting your hand out in front of you in a very assertive manner and telling the would be attacker to back off or stop definatly shows him that you are not a push over, will stand your ground and be a more complicated target.

    We recommend extending the arm and hand right after you have taken a couple steps backward and away from him so you do not give him an easy shot at grabbing your arm which you othewise have just thrust out closer to him!

    Police refer to increasing space between you and the perp as the “reactionary gap” or “cushion”
    This increased distance gives you time to make your next move and force him to take an extra step to get closer to you again.

    Also be sure to take a very quick glance behind you and “cover your six o clock” to be sure he does not have an accomplice lurking in an ambush set up. Only take this quick look behind as you have opened up a bit of space.

    If he closes on you again and becomes more aggresive, its time to escalate and get louder and more aggressive w the voice commands or demands.

    If your best option is to run DROP EVERYTHING that will slow you down and go!!
    Do not be shy to yell FIRE to draw attention to your situation

    All of this interrupts his decision cycle and leaves you looking less and less like the easy target he thought you might be.

    And remember that violent felons almost always state that its not the size of the victim that counts its the size of the fight in the prospective victim that is the game changer!!!

    By the way. This website is fantastic!!!

    Larry

  2. rose on October 18th, 2008 7:34 am

    http://www.rense.com/general46/targetsthrougharapists.htm

    I believe this is the source.

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